I can relate to
you. If this answer gives you pain and causes you trouble in your life,
I can relate to you. I did all of these things—and more.
It took me a while to realize that I was not getting what I wanted by being this way. I wasn’t being heard. I wasn’t being cared about. I wasn’t having the relationships that I wanted. I knew that I had to do something.
Fortunately, I eventually found a wonderful therapist. It took some looking and I was really lucky. She very non-judgmentally helped me realize that I wouldn’t lose my SELF if I changed and gave up some of these reactions. In fact, I was more likely to get what I really wanted—and you know what? I did!
You, too, can begin a journey to getting what you want. You may have tried other therapists who were not quite a match for you. I would love to hear your story and would be honored to accompany you on your journey.